I was on a walk in my neighborhood the other day and the school bus was unloading on the corner. A little guy got off the bus and started walking towards his mom. She was still halfway down the sidewalk but she took one look at him and said "What's wrong?” Because even though she was still half a block away, she could immediately tell that he’d had a bad day or that something had happened.
Within families & close relationships, I think that we have a tendency to take this type of interaction for granted – the way we pick up or read the mood or energy of our family members so easily. (There’s a reason why the saying “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is a cliché after all.) And while we may notice it more with the people we're closely connected to, the truth of the matter is we are actually all transmitting our energy (and picking up other people’s energy) everywhere we go.
Think about your office. You know how you could walk into a room and you can tell that someone's mad before they even say a word? You can just feel those vibes coming off of them. We can all read people's energy this way – just as we are transmitting our energy out to others as well.
Owning & operating a family business in the airline industry, I have spent a lot of time visiting different airline customers. And when I go and visit an airline customer, I always fly on the airline that I'm visiting. (Partly to do my best to support our customers financially, but also because if I’m late to the meeting it’s their fault and not mine. ;)
Anyway, in a single day, I’m interacting with employees at the check-in desks, the crews on the plane, maybe some additional gate agents, or baggage handlers… and then I arrive and go to their corporate headquarters, where I walk into the boardroom and meet with the company’s executives. And more often than not, the attitude, the energy, and the overall experience matches – from the check-in desk all the way to the executive suite. Same vibe. Because the energy within the business is what it is (for better or for worse) and we can feel it.
Which is why I think as leaders in family business, we need to really consistently and honestly look at ourselves and the energy that we're putting out – whether it's consciously or unconsciously.
But wait! If there are some unconscious energetic issues happening, how do we know?
(They’re unconscious after all!)
It’s a fair question – How do we know if things are off? Well, it can look like a lot of different things:
Problems with morale
Challenged with motivation
A feeling of disconnectedness among groups or individuals
Do these challenges feel like a “them" problem or an “us” problem? (Because I want to very gently and lovingly remind you that because we're all so interconnected, it’s nearly always an “us” problem.) Because even if it's not our fault, it is our responsibility to start tending to our energy in a way that benefits the organization as a whole.
And! (Here’s the good news!)
If things are feeling tough in your family, in your office, in your corporate culture – starting with your own energy is actually the fastest way to start shifting the energy for the entire family or organization.
Amazing!!
So, how do we actually do that? (Oooh! More good news!)
Pairing family business coaching with energy work can create shifts in your energy (and the energy of your family, your business, and your life in general) very very quickly.
And here’s why.
Traditional talk therapy or coaching starts with looking at our beliefs. And in the process of coaching or therapy, we start to shift our beliefs. Which in turn starts to shift our thoughts, words, and actions. Which shifts our energy. And when our energy changes, the way the world around us (and the folks in that world) respond to us also changes. The Universe as a whole responds differently – which then changes our lives. It’s a really beautiful, linear progression and it’s deeply powerful.
But here’s the thing.
When you partner traditional coaching with energy work, you’re no longer limited to this linear progression. You’re actually shifting the energy at the same time that you’re addressing the thoughts, beliefs, & actions. You’re hitting it from all angles, so to speak. And as a result, things shift SO. MUCH. FASTER.
I’ve had so many sessions with clients where we will successfully start shifting things that they've been working on for months or years with traditional coaching and traditional talk therapy. It’s truly remarkable and it’s the reason I’m so dedicated to providing the same support to family businesses around the world.
If you’d like to hear more about how I started incorporating energy work into my own family business & coaching practice, be sure to check out Episode 19 of the Legacy: Navigating Family Business podcast – available at www.thelegacyevolution.com/podcast or on Apple, Spotify or Amazon.
And if you’re ready to start making shifts of your own, let’s chat! Book a discovery call now:
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